Turkle, Sherry.(Feb. 2012.) “Connected, but Alone?” Online Video. TED Talks. https://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_alone_together?language=en
Sherry Turkle is the professor from Massachusetts Institute of Technology study in science and technology. She has written several books about the relationship between human and technology base on psychology. My topic is about the negative impact of science and technology, to simplified is that how science and technology has changed what we are and how we live.
“Why does this matter? It matters to me because I think we’re setting ourselves up for trouble — trouble certainly in how we relate to each other, but also trouble in how we relate to ourselves and our capacity for self-reflection. We’re getting used to a new way of being alone together. People want to be with each other, but also elsewhere — connected to all the different places they want to be. People want to customize their lives. They want to go in and out of all the places they are because the thing that matters most to them is control over where they put their attention. So you want to go to that board meeting, but you only want to pay attention to the bits that interest you. And some people think that’s a good thing.But you can end up hiding from each other, even as we’re all constantly connected to each other.“
She explained that even though we are physically with each other, we are mentally separated. When did we become so independent? I think is when social network became widely used. I think the negative effects of using internet and also it’s the biggest obstacle among the people is that we are no longer able to talk to people with open heart and no longer know how to confide and listen. Because we they think that maybe email or text message will be more convenient. Facebook or twitter perhaps will catch more attention. When we complained to a person, we can only get this one person’s reflection, sometimes maybe two or three people. But when we use the social media to complain, we can find ourselves receive more attention and more resonance. This is when we prefer to use the network to express ourselves instead of face to face conversation. When a person is angry or upset, he/she needs timely consolation and also understanding, this is the time to use internet because it’s easy to reach anyone, anytime and anywhere, but at meanwhile, we lose those people in the real life who are supporting us. We lose the chance to take to them with open heart and the chance to be more closer.
“How do you get from connection to isolation? You end up isolated if you don’t cultivate the capacity for solitude, the ability to be separate, to gather yourself. Solitude is where you find yourself so that you can reach out to other people and form real attachments. When we don’t have the capacity for solitude, we turn to other people in order to feel less anxious or in order to feel alive. When this happens, we’re not able to appreciate who they are. It’s as though we’re using them as spare parts to support our fragile sense of self. We slip into thinking that always being connected is going to make us feel less alone. But we’re at risk, because actually it’s the opposite that’s true. If we’re not able to be alone, we’re going to be more lonely. And if we don’t teach our children to be alone, they’re only going to know how to be lonely.”
I never thought the negative impact of the network could be that we become reluctant to communicate with each other. It is UNWILLING to communicate rather than no communication. I think it’s probably because the real life is boring, like what Gozzi mention that as people are now walking down the street can not do without their cell phones. In fact, we are more into escapism, but we want to isolate us look less lonely. But sherry was right that if we do not learn how to be alone, we will end up become lonely. If we want to ease the lonely moment through the Internet, then we will lose the chance to communicate with others. So that we will become more and more lonely. I can’t image if we keep using our phone to socialize, what the world will look like? A zombie world with no emotion, no laugh, no talk and no connections. This is the worst negative impact i could think of.
This is the example that Sherry gave to show how people connected but alone. This the picture of her daughter and her friends were hanging out in her daughter’s room. People become to internet’s slaves. Today, more and more people rely on the internet too much, we often check text message while we are talking to someone and more frequent pay more attention on the cell phone instead of class. Internet alienating distance between friends,family and us. We can not deny the convenience of a internet, but also because of the characteristics of internet, so that people over-reliance on it to communicate.
We are using internet to contact those people who are farther away from us, by the same time we lose attention on those people who around us. It’s no wonder why people decreased ability to communicate, not even a smile or make an eye contact. Along with this the problem of mental health growing up. When you attend a party, each person holding a cell phone to call, send text messages or socializing, you will feel the phone is really deeply alienating from the people.