How many times have you seen a celebrity or one of your other followers and wish you looked like them? Maybe a lot of times, maybe a little, or maybe not at all. Either way society has a way of knocking us down by telling us we should look or dress a certain way in order to be beautiful. The easiest way to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others is through social media. Parents, family members, and friends can also compare us to our siblings or others knowingly and unknowingly. A recent incident happened with myself and my aunt. I told her that I was possibly thinking about transferring to another school and she told me “And you know you not gon’ get any money” about how my friend did not receive any money for the school that I am looking at and I responded with “Well, that’s her.” Then she proceeded to tell me that my friend’s sister did not receive any money from Spelman (mind you that’s not even the school that I am considering) then I responded with “Well, that’s them”. My biggest issue was not what she said it, it was how she said it. But honestly, if you ask me, it was wrong from the beginning for her to compare me to other people. I am sure she did not realize it but my feelings were still hurt by how she said it. Now yes, if that is how she felt she is entitled to her own opinion but at the same time, please watch what you say to everyone especially how you say it. I am glad that I am the way that I am with a go-getter mindset because if I did not have that mindset, I could have gave up on even applying to that school.
Moral of the story: We need to stop comparing people to others and others to ourselves. This creates major insecurities and can lead to depression (if the problem is not addressed and fixed). Make sure that you are not comparing yourself to others on social media because a picture only shows a quick second of their life. You can look at a celebrity and wish you had their life and looked like them but in all honesty you have no idea of what they could be going through personally, dealing with all of the cameras in their face, limited amounts of sleep, and not having enough time for their children. Be careful what you wish for :).