In Equality we trust

Equality is a not a word only. It has always been a motivation that drives me to work more and more to establish it. If I say I believe in equality, I don’t definitely mean that I want to  be superior and dominant to others. I have the same rights as an average Human being does, despite of my race, religion, age, sex, sexual orientation, ability and immigration status. I moved on the USA in 2016 with my family. A brief background, my grandparents were provided family Immigrant visa with permanent residence in the USA from the USCIS(United States citizenship and immigration services) and NVC(National Visa center) of the USA under the category F3(family immigrant visas) back in 1997. They immigrated here, worked their souls off, paid taxes and continuously lived here for 5 years and became naturalized citizens in 2002. They left their 9 children behind, so being able to reunite with their family was the only drive that made them determined to apply for their children. After becoming naturalized citizens in 2002 , in 2004 my grandparents were able to apply for their 9 children and their spouses and their grandchildren. It took 11 years for USCIS to process our applications and call us for an interview in 2016. After 2-3 months on prolonged waiting, they finally issued our visas. Our as in my parents, I and my younger sister and my other uncle’s and aunts. After reading this brief history you have probably understood by now that I’m not an undocumented Alien who is here illegally. Please don’t get me wrong. Apparently Alien is the term the USCIS has given “Immigrants” whether they are documented or undocumented, legally or illegally here. I am a permanent resident or a green card holder who legally came to this country and I have faced so much discrimination for being a different one. Now you’re probably thinking I maybe didn’t know to speak English properly and/or had no idea about western culture. Actually it was nothing like that. My Dad is very famous in my country since he is both the leader and a member of his own music band and he is also a government employee. Due to his fame, I never got an opportunity to go to a public or local school. I went to a private English medium school which followed the Cambridge A.K.A British Curriculum. Most of our teachers were from United Kingdom and Australia. So English was the second mother tongue to me. And not to mention English movies and songs would be a disgrace. I speak fluent English with a bit of British accent and still got treated feebly.  Experiencing all that discrimination after coming to the USA, it did hurt me, but more than that it inspired me to work for what I believed in. If I am no harm to humanity, I should not be treated like rubbish. Be it documented, undocumented, male, female, able disable, white or blank or brown or have small eyes, young or old, I fall in the criteria of a human being, and I have the right to be treated equally. The motto is ‘In God we trust’. If you really trust in God, you will trust in Equality too.  And if you’re someone who doesn’t trust in God I don’t discourage you, but a proper logic and your critical thinking skills are enough to make you believe in equality and it will be proven through your actions. 

Refugee

Let’s take a look at them too, They are those unfortunate ones, who fall victim to situation and are forced to leave their own land to escape war, persecution or natural disaster. They are called refugee. We human have a tendency to neglect things that has been rejected. We see these refugees as non-human who don’t deserve a life. We are brainwashed in such a way, that we often lack critical thinking and don’t really care about things that is not a concern for us. Here’s a scenario, imagine you woke up to a massacre- everywhere you lay your eyes on you see restless and distressed situation, an emergency alert is in on, loud sirens blowing from every side and corner. You get extremely frightened and can’t understand what’s going on, what to do. There’s a knock on your door and as soon as you open the door, rescue folks jostle in and tells you that your country is under attack, there’s a war going on and you are being moved to another country for safety. As soon as you step outside your house, you see blood, gore and destruction every where. You can’t understand a thing but all you hear and see is catastrophe. You don’t know where your mom, dad or sibling are. Suddenly you open your eyes and see everything is normal, your mom is serving breakfast, your dad is getting ready for work and your sibling/s are getting ready for school. you look outside the window and you see everything is perfectly fine. Phew! what a nightmare. You feel relived and forget about it and start your perfectly fine day. But do you realize that your nightmare is the story of someone else’s life today? Definitely you’re not responsible for their situation, but someone else is, so you shouldn’t care about it. Likewise, someone else didn’t care too and disrupted someone’s life completely. But did you know that among all these someones and you there’s one thing that is  common. We all are human beings and we make our own surroundings. Maybe in a different country or continent, but we are the same. If there is an issue , it is not only a concern for that specific country, it is a global issue. It is a concern for all of us. It effects the world economy.  So we have a responsibility to help them.  According to UNHCR  68.5 million people were forced to flee their lands and among them 21.4 million are refugees. Most of them are jobless and homeless because of their undocumented status, them not having legal residential status. Now think about it, we are letting them in as refugees to give them shelter, and provide them with a safe and secure life. But we are the very same people who don’t want to accept and employ them because of their status. So first they are forced to leave their homes for the sake of their safety and then are left in a situation where they don’t even know where to begin with. Now you might come up with this question – If the refugees are here(in a given country)for a temporary amount of time, why should we even think of settling them here? Before thinking about that question let’s either think about resolving the issue and take care of the situation that made them refugees in the first place, or simply just think if the issue itself is temporary or permanent. If we all were more conscious and aware of the situations that are not concerns for us, we probably could’ve made other’s life easier.

citation:

https://www.unhcr.org/figures-at-a-glance.html

Myth of the day

“Opposites attracts” we’ve all learned it very well by now, and believe in it and relate it to many aspects of our lives. But did you know that it is one of the biggest myths you’ve made your brain believe. Wait! your physics teacher taught you that, its not your fault. So, does that mean your physics teacher lied to you?. No no no, he/she didn’t, but your brain played a trick. Our brain is a marvelous part of our bodies and lives without a doubt. Doing trillion things at once, while keeping control over everything else in the body and maintaining balance, making every task easy for us. Now that really is neat work However, our brain doesn’t like complexities, lingering or incomplete tasks. No matter what, be it right or wrong, our brain will always interpret any information/input and make sense out of it. When your physics teacher taught you magnetism and properties of magnet, they at least once mentioned that two same poles of two individual magnets never attract. A magnet has two poles- north and south. A south pole will never attract to another magnet’s south pole, and no north pole of two magnets would attract. The relationship between them is infinite repulsion. But a south and north pole will always attract no matter what. From there, we came up with the theory that opposites attracts. Now that theory is correct in case of magnets, cables, wires and batteries, but it is not so in case of us  Human. Psychology says we don’t fall for people who are opposite to us, but rather similar in our journey of life, we always tend to be with people who are like minded to us.  That’s how we’re built. Our brains are functioned that way.  For example- when we watch national geography or discovery channel,  we see that animals are always in their own specific groups. Now, they haven’t seen a mirror or something that they know how they look like, then how do they find out their groups? Their brains are functioned to look for similar behaviour, that’s how they figure out who they belong to. That is quite the case with us too. We pair up with someone who understand us better than most others, who think like us, who work like us. Not every human being would be an exact clone of you, yet there are many similarities that would attract you to the one that is mostly like you. I’d really like to suggest the book “50 great myths of psychology” by sir Berry Beyestein, Sir John Ruscio, Sir Scott Lilienfeld, and Sir Steven J. Lynn. This book will tell you about 50 myths you’ve been believing as truth your entire life.

Feminism

Whenever someone hears the term feminism or feminist, most of them always have a negative thought and judgement. In fact, the meaning of the  term itself have changed drastically over time and had picked up some negative connotation as well. Oh, she’s a feminist, which implies that she is bossy, b*tchy, sassy, shows too much attitude, attention seeker etc. Whoa whoa whoa!!! Calm down human beings. Just because I believe in equality and want to be equal, doesn’t mean I’d have to be teared down to the ocean’s eight. We’re all Human beings and Something or someone created us, be it God or Energy. Religious books and science claims that Human beings are the best creation of all. Now, before even going to the topic of  greatest creation, let’s make education and understanding better. Now, that doesn’t mean I’m writing to educate you. You know yourself better than anyone else. So I’ll leave the educating part to you. But let’s understand the concept of feminism together. It is perfectly understandable that every human has a different view point. And you might think this is how perceive feminism to be. Keeping that in mind, I came up with the most acceptable definitions from the dictionaries worldwide. According to Oxford dictionary a feminist is a person who supports the belief that, women should have same rights and opportunities as men. According to Urban dictionary Feminism is about woman getting the same rights  as men. By these meanings it is clear that feminism is another term for equality. Not woman being superior to men, but to be equal. Now equality, what is equality? Driving a car, getting involved in politics for exp: right to vote, having right to education, right to have a job, getting paid the same hourly, being able to walk on the street without being judged and pointed out as a female, and told where she belongs. Now, is equality really being pursued through supporting feminism or claiming to be a feminist, Or it is being miss understood and being  misinterpreted differently to suit an individual’s own needs?

Dyslexia

Difficulty in reading is also a kind of disorder. Yes, you’re reading it right. Dyslexia, a learning disorder characterized by difficulty reading.  This condition is treatable, however it is not curable. This disorder is mostly seen children, could also effect elderly people. The child doesn’t necessarily have to be a special child. It can occur in children with normal vision and intelligence as well. Causes could be, family history of dyslexia, premature birth or low birth weight, exposure during pregnancy to nicotine, alcohol or infection that may alter brain development in the fetus, individual differences in parts of the brain that enables reading and many more causes. Symptoms usually include late talking, longer time learning new words and a delay in learning to read but not limited to reading related problems only. Not being able to tie a knot or shoe lace, not being able to catch a ball, unable to judge space, distance, difference are also included. Most children with Dyslexia can succeed in school with tutoring or specialized education programs. But what they cannot succeed in is getting diagnosed. If a child is having trouble reading, understanding or identifying letters, numbers and words, that child is most likely to have the lowest grade in class. To us parents with work loads, bills, mortgage payments, debts, it might look like the child is not being attentive enough, or is engaged in other activities but not books. What we don’t understand is, if the child is unable to read and understand or identify what is written in that book, why wouldn’t they engage in activities that doesn’t require reading? Every worksheet, homework and classwork of the child only has stroke of red ink.  Parents-teachers meeting has been called, parents attend it, the teachers explains everything going on with the child. Parents think it is because the child is not being attentive in class and spending more time on useless activities like drawing, playing, video games, watching cartoons, discovering new things. They talk to the child, explain to the child that they will be punished, grounded, not given the things they want if the child keeps bringing  poor grades home. The child tries it’s level best to get good grades, be attentive in class, and still brings poor grades home. The child is punished, scolded, in worst case scenario-physically abused, new rules have been set to train the child. However, everything remains the same. The child is pressurized even more, and at one point the child becomes devastated, depressed, upset, feel lack of self confidence and maybe completely begins behaving abnormally, and then sent to a school for special kids with a tag on the child that say special child. Maybe if the parents would try to understand the child’s difficulties, seek medical help to confirm diagnosis and rather than setting up punishments they took special care of the child, maybe the child could turn around its own world, instead of racing with the world to keep us with it. All that the child needed, was a little help and care.

The city and the city

I think one of China Mievelle’s most outstanding creation is The city and the city.  I didn’t think I was going to like the book at first, but eventually, I found this masterpiece very exciting. He has not only demonstrated, but proven that he is a prolific writer. Not only a writer, I would say he is much more than that, who can establish an imagery in a readers mind of something that has derived simply from his Imagination. In this book, he talks about two cities Beszel and Ul Qoma, and distinguishes how different each city were, despite of being a part of the same area. An invisible line of separation that exists and separates both the cities completely. Casting a fear in the residence’s mind that their day to day activities are continuously being observed by Breech. Breech belongs to both cities. They are like secret agents in disguise who are keeping log of both the cities everyday. In brief, a lady named Mahalia, a phD student was obsessed with a mystery city named Orciny between the two cities. One of the politicians use her obsession against her and leveraged her to uncover the secret city. But their intentions were for her to dig out artifacts and sell them to foreign companies for profit. When Mahalia realized that there was no such secret city and it was a cover up for the companies profit, she was  murdered and her dead body was dumped in Beszel. A detective agent named Borlu got involved in it and he desperately wanted to solve the mystery of her death. It was very hard to gather information and evidence since they were not allowed to see anything happening in the other city, and even if they did see something by mistake, they had to unsee it, otherwise they will be taken over by Breech. This book is a combination of mystery, conspiracy, and to some extent one’s place and space. Boru’s going back and forth from Beszel to Ul Qoma always reminded him of his place. Where he belonged to, who his people were and for who he worked for, what he isn’t suppose to see or know. More to add, Borlu was accused of breeching since he shot the snipper that was shooting at him, Dhatt and Yolanda(Mahalia’s best friend). When Borlu went to the Breech headquarters, he came to know that none of the Breech members were from either of the cities. He was the very first and only one. Now the bigger question that really interests me is that, being a breech member belonging from one of the cities, would Borlu be fair to both the cities?