When I first started this course I did not know what to expect from it. At first I did not think I would get so much helpful information that I could use in the future and more detailed information about things I did not know. This course has provided me with different techniques on how to deal with stress. Something I liked best about this class is doing the 2 min warm up exercise. It is very helpful because I am always busy during the day and its never seems like I have time to breathe and relax. After being giving back my pre and post course self ratings, my scores are the opposite of what they were before. Such as if in the pre ratings if one score is high in one category than it is lower in the post self ratings. I do not think this class has fully changed me but it definitely has given me a different outlook on things. I have learned my weaknessess, goals and have even written a mission statement,
For this week’s exercise I was assigned to keep a sleep journal. While writing down things about my sleep habits I learned that everyday its something different. I can say this week I probably have gotten about 6 hours of sleep everyday. From the power point it says that the average person should get at least 7-9 hours of sleep every night. I never go to sleep at the same time every night or even wake up when I am suppose to in the mornings. In class we discussed about hitting your reset button, that if you need extra energy get an extra hour of sleep. Also, getting enough sleep can improve your mood and supports emotional functioning. I have learned that maybe if I do not take naps during the day I can go to sleep at a decent time and it can make me fall asleep easier. What makes me sleep better is turning off the television because it becomes a distraction. If i hear the television I will want to continue to watch it when I should be going to sleep. Also, when it rains it helps me sleep better I do not know what it is about rain but it just so soothing. One thing that I can not deal with while sleeping is the room being hot. I just get all hot, sweaty, and irritated. I prefer to sleep with the temperature being cold. When I am well rested I feel as though I can actually get up when my alarm goes off and not keep snoozing it and when I am well rested I know it will be the start to a good day. When I am not well rested I feel as though I will not pay attention in my classes as I should be.
I read a quote on book that says “kindness is one thing we all have the ability to share”. As I was thinking about how I can spread kindness, it brings a smile to me. I know that kindness can be accomplished in so many ways that the effects can bring happiness to others.
I was thinking about what acts of kindness that I have done this week I realized that I have done many acts of kindness this week. I stopped doing my homework to help a friend prepare for an internship that she really wants to get. I thought to myself that was a great thing that I did for someone because I took time from doing my homework to help someone. I was glad that I could help someone in need. She was really grateful that I helped her because the internship was very important to her and it impacted her life alot. I enjoy giving someone a helping hand that is needed. I plan to show kindness to one of my roommates that have asked me to drive her to the store. She has no way to get there and with me having my car on campus I thought I would do her that favor.
As I move forward into my junior year of college I still do not know my views on my professional development plans. I really need to stay focused on my professional development plans after I graduate from college. I keep changing my mind about how I plan to use my college degree in business administration/management. I think it is important for me to determine what my career goals are and reflect on a vision of what I expect in a career but also to improve my skills along the way. In the Managing Yourself article, its about a woman who is not happy and does not feel she is doing what she wants to do. I want to be able to find a career that I will enjoy but be also to survive off of. This year has been a quite an experience with me trying to balance school work, looking for a apartment and internship, also trying to find time to hang out with friends.
This week in class we were assigned to make a Personal Mission Statement. I never made one so it was a little difficult to make for me. When I was trying to do it, I was lost I did not know where to start. But after getting to class and being giving an handout I can now adjust my personal mission statement to make it the best as much as possible. I love to help others and to lead them in the right direction in a positive way. In Dr.Wu-Pong lecture she mentioned that your happiness is a choice you make everyday.
There are some many situations that emotions can be contagious just as when you smile, sometimes individuals might return the smile. I have noticed that when I see individuals crying and the pain in their eyes it brings sadness to me. In class we learn that mindfulness is important because everyone would be stuck on either the past or the future and not focusing on the present. As you know the brain really never stops working/ thinking. The point of mindfulness I have learned is we should slow everything down to experience which is when the mind is really active. Mindfulness is not about thinking it is a sense of relating to a different way. They are different exercises to help such as sitting meditation or mindful yoga. It helps to focus your attention form- bring your mind to a certain thing, bring mind to stabalize just one thing.
After taking the assessment I got a pretty better idea of what my strengths were. Majority of them I already knew but it was bought to my attention about a few others. I never would have thought they would get them correct. My top 5 strengths were competition, achiever, adaptability, futuristic, and positivity. Never would I have thought I would have considered myself as the competitive type. I learned about myself that I am an over achiever who works hard and does everything to the best of my ability. I learned about others in my class that everyone had atleast one of the strengths that was listed and we are a well rounded group. When we had the exercise in class about telling one person about why that is our strength. It made me realize if you get to know a person without knowing their strength you can figure it. I loved talking to my partner because even though we had different strengths it somehow was connected and the same. In class, I learned to focus on your strengths more than your weaknesses and that everyone has a unique set of strengths
As far as my experience in positive relationships, it has been very limited. I was the shy girl in my classes who always kept herself. I always thought I need more positive people in my life but sometimes its not always about the quantity but just about the good relationship. The only positive relationship I have is with my mother. My mother and I have always had a very close relationship since my teen years. We are able to talk to each other openly and honestly about issues or situations. The reason why is because of my good communication skills, I will listen to my mother thoughts or ideas about situations without interpreting until she is finished. Also, I am always honest with her about how I feel about issues or problems no matter what the consequence may be. I think having good communication and honesty skills is an excellent way of developing positive relationships with others. Good communications and to be honest is excellent way of making connections with other. Honesty let individuals know you are straightforward and trustworthy which is an excellent quality in getting along with others. After listening to the speaker in class, I learned that high quality connections are important because it can make you physically and psychologically healthier, can enhance personal psychological resources and have greater cognitive functioning. The reading tells us that positivity of high-quality connections is known by how they feel for both persons involved, what they do, and the beneficial outcomes they produce. To me that means how you feel after talking to that person.
During class we did an exercise to have a conversation with someone we did not know. To be honest, I do not know anyone in my class even though I would walk past them every class period to get to my seat. Doing the exercise was very awkward at first to just start a conversation with someone I did not know because I did not know what to say but after talking I realized we had some things in common and I made a new friend. Not only did we have some things in common but we practiced good characteristics and skills that helped us to keep the conversation going that was not even planned it was just something we did without being told such as listening to what each other had to say and and giving good feedback and using proper eye contact. As discussed in class, those traits that we used during the conversation are some of the different stages of the listening process.
The way I vision romantic relationship during my age period is having a relationship with trust, values, and respect for each other. I am hoping that competence should be the same later in adulthood, but in an additional to having trust, values and respect for each other, I would want a relationship that will last.
In class, we listed what makes relationship good and what makes them bad. Everyone had their own opinion on how to answer this question. Also , i think everyone has their own idea of what competence is in a relationship . As discussed in class competence in romantic relationship is an emergency property. In my opinion I think communication skills is the key to a strong relationship. With your partner you should be able to talk about anything and work out any kind of problems within the relationship. There are many things that can lead to a strong relationship it depends on the relationship.
I have a couple who I admire their romantic relationship. I had seen romance in them even when they said they were just friends. I have seen them grow from being college friends to a romantic married couple with two children. It has been 6 years and I still see they have a good relationship as far as trust, values, and respect for each other.
What I see in this couple relationship is what I would like in romantic relationship. I have notice trust,values, respect in their relationship. I known they have some occasional conflict, but they always overcome the conflict. Those would be my contributing in any romantic relationship.
The question is there ever a time when depression or anxiety can be helpful? In my opinion, I think it can go either way. I feel like when you are depressed it is not a good feeling but once you get over it becomes helpful that you went through it to overcome the problem. Depression and anxiety can serious emotional problems for individuals. I feel like when you are depressed, you go through many emotional feelings that you cannot resolve. Some of the main causes for depression is stress and low self-esteem. Which I think it is not good, it tells someone that you might have a severe problem. I have read where depression can cause suicides or attempted suicides. In the last year, I have of heard of many cases of suicide or attempted suicide, and it seemed that the cause was depression. In a positive way depression can revealed to you or family members, there is severe emotional issue with the individual. Depression can make you aware that you may have a problem that may need to be resolved. As we discussed in class anxiety can be helpful, I would have never thought that it would be helpful. Anxiety disorder is very common in people. I think anxiety is not helpful because it is a main cause of panic attacks. Anxiety can cause your doubt and become vulnerable about things that will happen in the future. How can panic attacks be helpful to anyone?
Personality style can be very helpful to individual in dealing in today’s society. Your personality style can impact everything you do or say to anyone. An individual personality style can may it easier for you to deal with problems or difficult individuals. Your personality style can prevent stress and anxiety in your life. I try to have a positive attitude in everything I do, with my positive attitude it causes less stress and anxiety in my life. For the exercise, I interviewed someone on how they handle stress. They told me that they just take things one step at a time. Everyone handles stress differently. They did not become depressed but they have became anxious at times. When they became anxious they learned to calm down, relax, and breathe. If a person becomes, depressed, anxious, or stressed they should get support and not deal with it on their own.
I believe recognizing what type of personality you have is helpful in determining just what it is you should be doing with your life. I agree with some of my results of the survey that reflect my personality. The results have hopelessness as a low number, I do agree. I am always upbeat, I never let things or individuals getting me down, I have a positive attitude. I enjoy encouraging other individuals to do their best in everything and have positive attitude in whatever you are trying to accomplish. When I am doing my volunteer work on weekends I am encouraging the youths to be positive and hopeful in what they are trying to accomplish. I scored in the medium range for anxiety sensitivity, impulsivity, and sensation seeking, which I agree with. I am the type of individual that like to stay in their comfort zone. I am average when comes to sensation seeking, I do not have a high level of stimulation or complexity in my activities. I can stay I bed and watch movies and on my phone all day without being bored. It seems that my personality and cognitive style are right on track.
I have started focusing on how to change my internal obstacles. I am trying to begin each day with a positive attitude. I am trying to not let every little thing upset or stress me out. I am learning how to deal with my emotions because I have lack of patience. There are several obstacles that I need to start overcoming. The following are my external obstacles that I need to change. The main issue is getting up when the alarm clock goes off and stop snoozing the clock at least 3 times. If I could accomplish this issue, I would be able to get up and eat a good breakfast and make to class on time. I think with a good breakfast in the morning makes your mindset stronger and focused. Another obstacle that I need to overcome is getting a better organization and prioritizing skills of the events that I need to accomplish during the days and weeks. If this was accomplished, I would be able to accomplish more events in the day and I would not become stressed out.
What things contributes to well-being. The following are my thoughts on what I think contributes to well-being. Set values and standards for yourself. Make sure that you do not let anything or anyone compromise those values or standards. Always believe that you have put forth your best efforts to what you wanted to achieve. Making sure you stated connected with family and friends. Family and friends could be the ones that would help you doing difficult times of a problem you might be experiencing. Making sure you keep your health in good condition (eating correct, relaxing and enjoying yourself, and trying to stay stress free).