Blog Post #3!

Blog Post #3!

One of the biggest lessons I have learned from this class is how your mental health is just as important (if not more important) as your physical health. It seems as people are finally starting to see the impacts mental well-being can have on your life. A major tool to achieve mental well-being is mindfulness, which is one of the biggest lessons I have learned in this class. The week 8 reading, Contemplating Mindfulness at Work: An Integrative Review, explained how essential mindfulness is. It basically said that mindfulness increases the well-being of every single aspect of your life: attention, cognition, emotion, behavior, and physiology, performance in the workplace, teams, leadership positions, and relationships. When Dr. Warren Brown came into class and spoke (in his very mellow voice I might add) he really showed us all that we need to take more deep breathes and realize what life is all about instead of getting caught up in the hustle of things. He said that “our thoughts tend to run us” and mindfulness tries to reverse that so we run our own thoughts. This has been proven to help in academia and overall happiness! I believe when Dr. Reina came in, he talked to us about the scenario of multitasking while walking. This really hit home with me because it was so true. I do it myself and see it from every student as they are walking to class. He explained a story where someone you know walks by and gives you a friendly wave and a smile but you are too caught up in your own head to notice and little do you know that friendly wave and smile would have made your day. He really stressed what it means to be physically present as well as mentally, and what you could miss out on if you are not mentally present. Dr. Warren Brown and Dr. Reina’s lectures really struck me in this way. These are the most meaningful lessons to me because they seem to apply the most to my life. My life seems to be the craziest roller coaster of ups and downs and new responsibilities flying at me every way. Mindfulness is not only a tool to help me control everything that is on my plate, but it is a tool that will keep me positive throughout the process. It keeps me grounded and my tendency to sweat the small stuff and lose sight of the bigger picture has already started to decline.

The exercise that stuck out to me was the Eat, Move, and Sleep Exercise. I had the sleep portion of the assignment.  We were asked to record our sleeping patterns, including: when you were tired, how long it took to fall asleep, what makes sleep easier, barriers to sleep, how much sleep you got and how rested you feel. I noticed I was recording a lot of the same things each night. A big barrier to sleep was me looking at my phone, and a way to make sleep easier was reading before bed. However, I continued to look at my phone and I rarely read before bed. Why is this? I know that scrolling through social media is mind numbing and most of the time I am not reading half of the stuff people say and yet I keep on scrolling. Before I know it, 35 minutes has gone by. I know I enjoy reading a good book and it helps me fall asleep, but I barely read! Physically typing this information into a sleep journal helped me realize that I need to change this bad habit. I am committed to changing this habit, and I am excited to see the effects in the future!

I am going to commit to applying these insights to my life in many ways. I think I have already made a few changes in my life by trying to overall be more of a mindful person, and I can already see the benefits from it. I try to pride myself on taking a few moments each day to slow down and do something I really enjoy as a break from all of the chaos, because this allows me to reset and calm down. I can also see that from what I have learned in this class, I do not take negativity (whether it is feedback or events that happen to me) as hard as I used to. Being mindful has helped me not take things as personally and stress out over things that are very small. I want to work up to sitting down and actually going through a 10 minute mindfulness practice at least once a day because I want to see how large of an impact it can have on my life. In my professional life, I want to do a mindfulness practice before every soccer practice and game in the future. I have heard of a lot of players benefiting from this so I think it is time to try it for myself.

I plan on sharing the information I have learned through this class verbally for the most part. I love talking about the science of happiness to my family, friends, and teammates. I am also going to recommend this class to my teammates in hopes that one of them takes it! For our final project, we shared what we learned about mindfulness to a local middle school class, and that was a lot of fun. I think they learned a few things, and spreading the word about something that can make everyone happier actually made me happier too! I also plan to post more quotes and pictures about being happy and mental health in hopes that people that see it will smile and/or look into mental well-being more.….0…1c.1.64.psy-ab..5.6.831…0i67k1j0i8i30k1j0i13k1j0i13i5i30k1.0.TM9NaCUTGc8#imgrc=3AckV-tys7ChkM:


Blog Post #2

Blog Post #2

In the first 6 weeks, we talked about what the science of happiness is, where it came from, how it had many definitions, and what goes in to each person’s definition. There is the science of happiness, positive psychology and many views inside each label (whatever you label it) that make them all shoot towards the same goal:  positive wellbeing. In weeks 7-10, we got into the developmental perspective of how we are as people, how that relates to our relationships when we grow up, and how positive psychology fits into that. How we grew up shapes who we partner with. We tend to act how we have been treated, or the same way as we have observed. Having a positive wellbeing has a big impact on how you treat other people. People can use your positive vibe to impact their life positively as well. It’s contagious! We learned about how no matter how we grew up, every person can benefit from mindfulness. All of these topics have the common ties that positive wellbeing can come from many things around you to begin with but ultimately it comes from you; and the cool thing is that you can manifest it!

Mindfulness and living presently are huge tools for the taking. This is the largest lesson that I have gained from this class. I loved learning about the magnitude mindfulness could have on our lives if we just use it. I was so surprised the impact mindfulness had on not only life in general but academia as well, and it plays a huge role in sports. My whole life as seemed to center around what I was not very good at, and how to improve the faults. Before this class I had never even heard of “cultivating your strengths”. I think it is a concept that needs more publicity! Only focusing on your negatives can really bring you down. Another lesson would have to be not spending so much time dwelling on the past or getting too anxious about the future. Live in the now!

Ever since learning about mindfulness I have tried to tie it more into my life. I am trying to be just more mindful in general; mindful of myself and others. Things may not be going my way, but it’s not just about me, there is a bigger picture to look at and a lot to be grateful for. Learning about this gave me the inspiration to work it into my life because who doesn’t want to feel more positive, or happy. Working on my well-being will never take a back seat in my life anymore.

The image I selected represents by post by how our minds tend to be full of things that really don’t matter at that moment. Sometimes of course you should be thinking about what you’re going to do next, or what just happened, but most of the time we just need to focus on what is right in front of us because thinking about everything else just makes us unhappy. The goal is to be happy!!


– Kelly Graves….0…1.1.64.img..9.2.704….0.kzik8pDKJ5s#imgrc=nk0N0sc4UigHjM:



Science of Happiness Blog Post #1

Science of Happiness Blog Post #1

1.  The first few weeks of class, we had a basic introduction of what the science of happiness is. We learned that it is also known as positive psychology and that this is a newly labeled area of psychology. However, everyone seems to have their own definition of what positive psychology is and what goes into it, but in the end it is to reach the same goal. The topics covered relate to each other in the way that with them all, we will be more knowledgeable of what makes our life truly meaningful and what we need to do in order to live a life of fulfillment and happiness. But, they differed in the way that you may approach positive psychology. Some people approach the science of happiness as the study of a wide variety of components, practices, and concepts that contribute to our overall happiness and satisfaction. Others say it is the way your character and virtues play into your overall happiness and fulfillment in life.

2. Flourishing and languishing are terms I had never heard before in this context. Flourishing is how good we feel about ourselves. Languishing is the lack of mental illness but a life characterized by a lack of interest, apathy, listlessness. I also have never heard of PERMA, and how all of the aspects of the concept make a huge impact on one’s happiness in life, but looking back at it now it makes a lot of sense.

3. All of the content in this class seems to apply to my life in some way. Living in the present moment is something I have been trying to work on a lot; mediating for a few minutes really helps this.  It seems as though I live in the past and the future much more than the present. It is amazing how much time is spent worrying about what is to come or dwelling on what happened in the past. The lecture by Everette Worthington really opened my eyes about life in general. His lecture made me feel as though I am making the little things in my life turn into big things for no reason, and it is affecting my overall happiness. Also, cultivating my strengths is something I haven’t thought of doing before; I’ve only thought of improving my weaknesses. But if my strengths are what set me apart from the rest, maybe strengthening those can do more for me than I would have thought. Overall I’ve learned that achieving mental health involves quite a bit of work in a few areas, and it is not just about the absence of mental illness and having a smile on your face like one may think. In the first reading in class, Promoting and Protecting Mental Health as Flourishing by Corey Keyes, complete mental health is described as the state where one is free from mental illness and is flourishing. It is about living a life full of meaning and satisfaction, and it is something that one cannot just go through the motions each day to find. Working on your strengths and finding what makes you happy are huge parts of it.


–  Kelly Graves