Efficacy of Psychotherapeutic Interventions to Promote Forgiveness (meta-analysis)

It’s always so easy to say, “I’m sorry,” but to actually mean that “I’m sorry” and to genuinely mean it and feel it in one’s body, mind, heart, and soul is a completely different thing. To forgive someone who has done wrong is a courageous thing to do. When the border of trust has been broken due to mistrust and lies, that trust, that concept of being able to show vulnerability to someone else, that idea of a private aspect of themselves, to another person and that line becomes broken, and to try and fill that gap again is hard. There’s always going to be some worry and doubt underlying it all.

I know for me it’s easy to say “I’m sorry” if someone has stepped on my foot, or if someone’s bumped into, but I am genuinely forgiving who it comes to that because I know it’s accidental. The only times when I have not been so forgiving is when it involves money or promise from someone else. To me money is of value, gets you things and gets you places. But sometimes I won’t care if it’s a friend or family since I know they’ll repay me back another way. For strangers sometimes I have spare change. Promises are things, as it’s been a prior agreed upon agreement, only to have it ditched at the last minute.

Forgiveness is an important thing in life. While forgetting may not seem likely, it’s the idea of at least forgiving that is in mind.

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

(M. Gandhi)

Differences in Character Among U.S. College Students

It was very interesting to read about how certain character strengths that were studied from a group of willing undergraduate students (based on paper-and-pencil questionnaire) each had in skill a stable mileage of the 24 traits listed. The traits of modesty, humility, self-regulation, spirituality, love of learning, and prudence were the least endorsed while the traits of humor, love, kindness, integrity, and social intelligence were the most frequently endorsed. This was across a range of similar age, ethnicity, relationship status, years of education, and work status. Gender did impact the study when 11 out of the 24 traits were kindness/generosity, intimacy, gratitude, forgiveness, appreciation of beauty and excellence, prudence, equity/fairness, leadership, creativity, valor, and self-regulation.

Interesting enough was that from this simple study, was among peers with a smilier goal in life, the people there treated each other with utmost respect since they were finally in the real world and where no one was to be discriminated based on age, color, status, but where they stood intellectually, mentally, physically, or even psychologically.

 

College Students : How do they sleep?

College.the joy of being unsupervised for months on end. Instead life of a young adult not quite ready for the world is changed in small and almost insignificant moments. Classes can be chosen at any time or day, rooms range from 5 to 300, taking the elevator now takes thirty minutes, and the room is always too cold or too hot thanks to some non-related roommate. All for the price for college.

Of course there is also the idea of trying to manage a new unrestrained social life, both day and night, maintaining decent grades in classes that will inevitably decide our future and seal us forever, owning up to a job that starts with minimum wage, the concept of ever-growing loans and student debts of thousands of dollars, making new friends, making parents and guardians proud, and essentially setting foot to the real world without any aid.

Sleep to say the least is just something that we need, every now and then. there are classes to attend, service work to do, a job to make funds, loans to pay off, people to see, food and places to eat and see. essentially there is so much out in the world for a new that the concept of proper sleep habits can wane.

Pills, Energy Drinks, sleeping aids, all can cause stress on the body and refract from good sleep, and therefore cause a negligence in performance, and actions.

Sleep is essential. Understand that now.

Interdisciplinary Research on Close Relationships

To be honest, Im surprised was interested enough to do a research and then write an extremely lengthy yet detailed article bout relationships, i.e. “intimate relationships.” Relationships as I know them range far and wide, but will remain a mystery to me until the end of time. It is the idea of two people who must be willing to be open to communicate in the end the allows a relationship (chain linking of feelings and motions) to continue in life and move along smoothly. Besides family, friends, and dating, each relationship area is handled differently. With family there are certain boundaries to remember; such as respect for parents or the responsibility to care for a younger sibling. With friends there is the idea of each own has there own set of responsibilities (i.e. all are on equal grounds). And of course, dating, where a  person must learn to accommodate with another person not of their own.

Sometimes within these types of relationships, people still have to learn to keep their mental health in check. There has always been that idea that people are always looking, talking, judging. It is why people these days are so focused on how they dress in a certain way, how they may act in public or private, what they eat, how they are constantly looking to the public eye, who they out with on a regular basis, and what they say may affect what other think about them.

A social experiment was done a few years ago. In 2011, Gabby Rodriguez, 17, a student at Toppenish High School student in Washington,  faked her pregnancy for a social experiment project, “Stereotypes, Rumors and Statistics” . The project went on for six months, with only a handful of people knowing (principal, mother, best friend, boyfriend). Not even her six of seven siblings nor her boyfriend’s parents know of that it was an “experiment.” It all started October 2010. Gaby started to change the way she dressed with baggy clothes and a fake belly out of wire mesh and cotton quilt batting. People began to say how irresponsible she was”, or “college was just not an option anymore,” or “I knew she would eventually get pregnant (since Gaby had a boyfriend),” and worse, “She’s ruined and doesn’t even know it.” Gaby took it all in, taking notes of what was being said to her by everyone, teachers, student,s even though who respected, were nice, or even knew her. The catch?

Gaby Rodriguez was a well-known and well-liked by students and teachers because she was an all A’s Honor Student. Many people have even said to respect her. But announcing her project to the entire revealed she felt ashamed and embarrassed to even be there. Everyone was just silent. In the end, Gaby plans to present her findings to community leaders to help other young women fight stereotypes and find the same quality she discovered along the way — courage. (Taken from below).

“Never Judge A Book By Its Cover.”

 

(Click this link for the full story!!!) :   http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/washington-teen-gaby-rodriguez-fakes-pregnancy-social-experiment/story?id=13434764

Positive Emotions to Positive Psychology

Are emotion really just a subset of the broader class of affective phenomena? According to some research, emotions are best regarded as multicomponent response tendencies that are revealed during short time spans. An emotion begins within an individual when they response to their personal meaning of an event. This process can be either in their consciousness or unconsciousness, which then causes a triggering flow of response tendencies (i.e. emotions) that the manifest across a span of component systems (past experiences, depression, processing, psychological change, etc.).

Given “Affect” for example. Affect is present within one’s emotions, but it is also present in other affective phenomena (physical sensations, attitudes, moods, and even affective traits). This proves that “Emotions” as they are placed, is on a different level than “Affect.” There are three main differences. Emotions are typically about some personally meaningful circumstance, whereas affect is free-floating, or objectless. Emotions are brief and implicated the multiple component system, where affect is more long-lasting. And lastly emotions are often categorized into families (fear, anger, joy) unique affect where it varies into two dimensions; pleasantness and activation or positive and negative emotional activation.

College versus Sleep

It is in accordance that when children are beginning to move on and grow up, college seems to be a variable in this process. It is as it goes; years of schooling, then college, a diploma, perhaps some internships, then a good job, be successful, marry at a proper age, have children, and etc.

But as time goes on, studies show that some college students are having trouble sleeping. For the body to sustain itself and feel better, there are many things at play. A person must keep and respect their body for it to be at its best. There is mental health and stress management, time management, social relationships, proper nutrition, spiritual health (if needed), proper sleep habits, and proper exercising. But with all these “wants/needs” to keep the body right, there are many things that counterattack these. College is a time for students to be free. There is no more nagging from parents to do chores, no need to be the responsible one at the household, more cleaning up after the dog or the little sibling, or immediate bed time. College is seemingly the place where kids can finally drink, smoke, be unsupervised, party, and make friends. It’s the time to have fun.There is always something going on and just not enough time for everything. It is up to the student to be responsible for themselves, with no assistance form others.

“IT IS EVERY MAN FOR THEMSELVES.”

Promote and Protect Mental Health (i.e. TDH)

Keyes article on mental health and the fact that as the years go by, more and more young adults are experiencing anxiety and depression. It was surprising to see that there  was a cost to depression of at least $40 billion alone based on direct and indirect costs. Studies concluded that  there are three paradoxical reasons for mental health issues. The basic one is about one’s age, biology, cellular and genetic responses to stress. The presence of physical disease was seemingly low in young adults, but were more common in young children.  And there was the life expectancy issue where people were dying at a younger age.

Unperturbed, these results of mental illnesses in the younger generation did not surprise me in the least.

Dish of Happiness

Welcome to Tiffany’s “Personal Dish of Happiness,” in lieu of my class, UNIV 291-003; Science of Happiness.

Do bare with me as I continue to adjust and improve both my wellbeing and this beginner’s blog post over the course of the semester!

Make the most of life

Tiffany Ni