Reflection

Reflection

With the knowledge I’ve gained over the semester, I can say that I’ve received enough information that will help me with personal problems. In the beginning of the semester, I’ve stated that I’ve always had an issue with focusing on negativity and letting negativity get to me. I don’t deal with stress too well, so when I do stress, it affects me physically. I don’t eat as much, so I lose weight. I tend to sleep A LOT. Just things that I do not normally do. The positive thinking and stress management topics really benefitted me. Today, I’m so much better at being positive. Just recently, I was down and stressing about not yet having a post-graduation job lined up. Two interviews down, and no job offer. But, I started to think on a positive note that there is a job much better waiting for me. Because of this class, I’m able to get over the negative.

Move

I received the move assignment. I kinda wished I received the sleep assignment because of the fact that I do more of that than being active. I used to be an active person when I was younger, but when I came to college that all changed. One thing I learned was the only time I’m really active is when I’m walking to class. Once I’m home from class, I go straight to my bed to lay down. I think the only thing that is stopping me from moving more is the lack of motivation. I always tell myself that I should go to the gym more to get out more and because I’m so frail. One thing I noticed is that when I actually have the motivation to get up and be up active, I feel wayyyyy better about myself, which is the main reason why I want to be more active. I learned that I need some serious motivation to achieve that goal.

Move

I received the move assignment. I kinda wished I received the sleep assignment because of the fact that I do more of that than being active. I used to be an active person when I was younger, but when I came to college that all changed. One thing I learned was the only time I’m really active is when I’m walking to class. Once I’m home from class, I go straight to my bed to lay down. I think the only thing that is stopping me from moving more is the lack of motivation. I always tell myself that I should go to the gym more to get out more and because I’m so frail. One thing I noticed is that when I actually have the motivation to get up and be up active, I feel wayyyyy better about myself, which is the main reason why I want to be more active. I learned that I need some serious motivation to achieve that goal.

Act of Kindness

Over the week, I was able to be there for someone who was going through hard times. They felt comfortable enough to break down to me about some bad news that they received. I basically prayed for them and gave them some positive advice. The next day they were in a much better mood, and they told me they appreciated me for my kind act. Just knowing I was able to take someone out of a dark place and helped them have a better day brings me genuine happiness. It makes me want to continue to help others be happy. Not so they can appreciate me, but I know that I would want someone to help and be there for me if I’m ever in a bad situation.

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As of right now as graduation gets closer and closer, I’m thinking and stressing more about changing my environment and spending habits. For me, starting to become financially successful is most important right now. I realize that I’m going to be in the real adult world in a couple months so I know that I need to cut back on some of the things that I used to do. Those things really involve habits that impact me financially. With that information, I know that I need to start to really save and budget myself. I feel that getting in the habit of making better financial decisions will help me in the future. 

Be Aware of your Behavior

Be Aware of your Behavior

Our emotions are super contagious. When I was in high school, I remember having such a great day in school, but it all would change if my mother came home fussing about literally nothing. -___- Haha! One other perfect example of how your behavior can affect others would be how you act while you’re around your friends. If I am not my normal self while I am out with friends, it’s guaranteed my other friends will be somewhat affected. It’s pretty much like a ripple effect. With a situation like that, being mindful of your behavior can improve your social relationships. If you are known to always be negative, people are not going to want to be around you all the time. This goes back to how your behavior can affect others. I know for sure that I would not want to be around someone who is always negative, simple because I know from experience that it can easily rub off. I feel that with being aware, you should think that there is a time and place for everything. Some people just can’t help behaving how they behave even if it includes being negative. Even if that person is always dealing with something, I don’t expect them to completely hide anything that may be going on with them. What I do believe is that it can all be controlled. In this case, it would be controlling your negativity while with your friends.

 

Strengths

My top strength just so happened to be humor and playfulness. I thought it was pretty funny and accurate because I definitely love bringing smiles to other people who are important to me and I always try to see the lighter side of every situation. One strength that I thought was interesting was the judgment, critical thinking, and open-mindedness strength. It’s interesting because they deal with not jumping to conclusions, which I have an issue with. I can say I have gotten better with jumping to conclusions, but I used to be a mess with it. My third strength, which is hope, optimism, and future-mindedness, definitely influenced my long-term goals. I didn’t think that would be a strength because sometimes I tend to be less hopeful for the future because of certain obstacles that may come in the way. So I guess knowing that I expect the best in the future and that I believe that the future is something that I can control can just be my reminder to stay optimistic. I feel that the only strategy I can use to build my strengths is to simply remember the skills that I have and that were listed. I really enjoyed the exercise we did in class where we pointed out traits in others. It was pretty uplifting to hear someone else, especially someone that you don’t really know, point out a positive trait in you.

High Quality Connections

When it comes to fostering relationships, I’ve learned from a few good relationships of mine that support and listening is the key. Another characteristic that I think is important is making sure you’re not judgmental. The reason why my best friend and I have such a great relationship is because we both are truly supportive to each other and are always listening especially during our darkest times. When people feel comfortable to talk to you and they know for a fact that they won’t receive bad vibes from you, then the relationship between you and them will more than likely last. I’m very respectful and open, and I feel that is what contributes to my ability to make high quality connections with others.

Competence in Romantic Relationships

Competence in Romantic Relationships

For me, like mentioned in class, “Competence” in romantic relationships during our college-aged years means being able to reciprocate the loyalty, communication, and trust that’s given to you. I honestly feel that as we get older, those kind of things don’t change. I feel that a married couple who has a family have a bunch of serious responsibilities outside of their relationship, but even then, the same communication, honestly, trust, etc. still plays a role. I feel that is the only difference between a regular serious relationship during our college-aged years and adulthood. I can’t really reflect on a couple that are friends of mine and say that I admire them because everyone’s relationship is different, and you honestly never know what’s really going on behind closed doors. But, a couple that I do love together would definitely be Jada and Will Smith. Haha! Will has made a comment in an interview that was his secret to a long-lasting relationship, and that secret was simply never giving up. That’s sort of an issue I see in relationships these days. When things get hard or go left in the relationship, not in terms of loyalty but in terms of things dying down and not being in that honey moon phase, people tend to simply give up. He said there’s been so many times where things weren’t always sunshine and rainbows, but their love for each other always brought every thing back together. I feel that their true love for each other is what contributes to their success.

 

 

Depression & Anxiety

When asked if depression and anxiety can be helpful, one would most likely say no just by thinking of the negative aspects of the two. A lot comes with depression like mentioned in class, the intense feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, but I feel that some positivity can come from being depressed. I think when one pushes themselves to get involved in something that can sort of distract them from being down all the time, they’ll realize how much better they feel and want to keep feeling those positive emotions. Once they break away from depression and can pinpoint what gets them down and what brings them up, then that can sort of help them with a bit of emotional control.

In regards to personality style, I think they can be used to our benefit when it comes to getting out of difficult situations. Everyone has a different way of dealing with things. So a solution that may work for one person, may not work for another. I was not in class for the exercise that everyone did, but for example, I know that with some situations, I like to immediately get out of it and get it handled. I do that so that I won’t have to deal with any kind of stress.

Results Reaction

I was not very surprised when I saw my results, especially when I saw my results for “sensation seeking”. Out of all of the categories, “Sensation Seeking” got the highest rating! I am, for sure, an individual who LOVES  the thrill. Things like zip lining from a mountain excites me on another level. The other category that I wasn’t too surprised about was “negative thinking” or “hopelessness”. After seeing my results, I realized that I tend to blame myself for negative outcomes of a situation. Recently I blamed myself for a minor setback that wasn’t my fault at all. I blamed myself by automatically thinking i’m being irresponsible. The only thing that made me feel better about the situation was getting reassurance from someone else, which is interesting because that is one of the coping strategies that was mentioned in the lecture. I used to 100% agree with trusting your gut in a situation. The reason why I agreed was because, at the time, everytime I trusted my gut I ended being right. It was cool until it all backfired and I started to end up being completely wrong trusting my gut. I feel that a pro of trusting your gut is when you are right, you’ll have a solution in a similar situation later on down the road. The con of trusting your gut is the consequences that follow after making the wrong decision.

Well-being!

For me, well-being is when you’re finally comfortable with everything that is going on in your life. I believe everyone has had a moment where they felt everything in their life was going completely left. When one feels that way, they become super discouraged about everything that goes on with them, whether it be grades, relationships, etc. I honestly believe a little bit of everything contributes to one’s well-being. I know for sure that one’s outlook on life can affect their well-being. For example, a person with a positive outlook on life will more likely be happier than someone who has a negative outlook on life. That’s more of an internal contribution. External contributions to well-being could be your environment and your peers. The things you eat can also contribute to your well-being. If you aren’t healthy, what makes you think you’ll be happy? Once a person separates themselves from everything that isn’t lifting them up, everything will fall into place, and they will feel more comfortable and happy.

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